#178 – Invisible Histories

One of the most annoying ideas in our public discourse about queer and trans folks is that we are a new phenomenon. I’ve seen enough conservative pearl clutching about this new trans things to last my entire lifetime. Its insidious. You see it in the subtext of every breathless conservative thinkpiece. This new phenomenon, this new trend, this new fad. My friends, this is not only just factually incorrect, its also dangerous. Pretending like queer and trans people only exist recently in history robs us of significant pieces of our existence. Our history is in fact the history of humanity itself. You find people from all parts of the world, in all cultures, of all backgrounds who don’t fit cisgender or heterosexual norms. We have ALWAYS existed.

The fact that the conversation about us has reached a new level of awareness does not, in fact, mean that we somehow just showed up on the world stage. We have always been here, and always will be. Its this context that makes illustrating and preserving queer and trans history so very very important. There are lots of people doing this important work, and today we’re going to be talking to one such person. His name is Josh Burford, and Josh is one of the founders of the Invisible Histories Project.

https://www.invisiblehistory.org/

A video of Birmingham’s first pride celebration – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OeA1rBfrkng

 

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#177 – SESTA/FOSTA, and What’s Up With Patreon?

Patreon, sex work, and The Gaytheist Manifesto… they all, apparently, have a thing in common

Hey, before the regularly scheduled gaytheisting, a quick note…

I launched a special thing on patreon where anyone who signs up before Sept 30th at the 2 dollar level or higher is going to get a sweet poster with some words from the outro of the show on it. check out patreon.com/thegaytheistmanifesto to see a picture and sign up to get one. Love you friends <3

 

If you follow me on social media at all, you might notice that I’ve been pretty miffed lately about some of the things Patreon has been doing. To recap, after our episode about TERFs, my patreon page was marked as adult content. What this means is that it was not searchable on the Patreon site. You had to type the URL into your browser to get to it. Because of the way credit card payment processing works, it also means that my payout was delayed. And this seems pretty shady right. We do an episode about TERFs, then a trans woman’s podcast gets marked as adults only. It’d be pretty easy to see a connection between those two things. But the trust is, I’m not sure I’m on the TERFs radar. I don’t get the kind of hate some other trans women do online, so I’m honestly not even sure those folks know I exist. So as much as it might seem there was something nefarious going on, after doing some thinking, it was probably just because a common euphemism for genitalia was in the show notes. Now its only fair for me to point out that between the time I recorded this interview and the day of release here, Patreon got me taken care of. I was able to manually pay myself out, and someone reviewed my page and removed the adult content flag. So they did do the right thing here. It still took them too long and caused way too much stress on my part. Its just important to know that as you listen to today’s interview, Patreon did do the right thing here and all is mostly well, aside from the fact that it took so damn long. Anyways…

I was out in the Baltimore area to interview a friend of mine for this other podcast project I’m doing. I brought this up in conversation, and lo and behold she actually happened to know what’s going on with all this, and its far far bigger than podcasting and how we monetize podcasts. Her name is Shanon Nebo, and she’s one of the creators of the website fetsie.com, which we’ll talk more about later on, but because of her experience with Fetsie and sex work in general, she actually knows what’s going on here.

 

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Further reading on SESTA/FOSTA from Vice NewsElectronic Frontier Foundation,  and Huffington Post

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#176 – Conversation with a Gender Therapist

Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC is a gender therapist who is also non binary

Today I’m super stoked to welcome Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC onto the show. Dara is a therapist who specializes in working with queer, trans, and gender non-conforming clients.

http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/  <- use coupon code “podcast” to get 10% off to order Dara’s book!

http://darahoffmanfox.com/about-dara-hoffman-fox/

https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox/videos

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#175 – A Polite Conversation with Eiynah

Eiynah is an ex-Muslim, and Twitter is stoked

I feel like if there’s any group of people who have to feel like political footballs basically all the time its gotta be ex-Muslims. Especially ex muslims who tend toward the leftist end of the political spectrum. I’ve seen all manner of white people and never muslims explaining to ex Muslims what their background is, how they’re supposed to feel, how they’re ex-Muslimming wrong, and to be honest it just looks super effing exhausting. So to have a talk about it we have atheist Twitter’s favorite ex Muslim, host of the Polite Conversations podcast, Eiynah.

https://soundcloud.com/politeconversations

https://twitter.com/NiceMangos

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#174 – Teaching While Trans

We talk a lot about trans kids in schools. Trans teachers? Not so much

Usually, when we talk about queer and trans folks in schools, we’re talking about kids. We don’t have that conversation about the teachers often enough. I happen to have a dear friend who is a trans teacher, and they’re on the show this week to talk about their experience.

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#173 – wtf even is a TERF

TERFs are dangerous. Here’s a bit about them.

Back in June on episode 163, we did an episode with Elle Clayton. She’s the teespring creator who got her designs removed from the site after TERFs mass reported her and the company made the super shitty decision to bow to them and acknowledge the idea that TERF is some unacceptable slur. We spent a bit of that episode talking about TERFs and how dangerous they can be, but we’re overdue for a deep dive. If you’re not familiar, TERF is an acronym that stands for trans exclusionary radical feminist. You’ll hear more on the definitions later, but for now just know these are a particularly nasty and hateful group of people who are absolutely hell bent on excluding trans people not just from certain social circles, but from public life in general. They regularly bully and harass trans people, even going as far as goading people into suicide.

I was reminded of this by an article i read in Forbes of all places. The article is called “Lesbians Want A Church Of Their Own And IRS Approves.” And my initial reaction was like “okay sweet, lesbian church, i can get into that.” It kind of sounds like one of those stunts the satanic church pulls to point out the absurdity of the privilege religious organizations still enjoy in our society. But its not as good as all that. No its actually pretty awful. This place is literally a TERF church. The Pussy Church of Modern Witchcraft. According to their website, Here’s who can join…

“All Women and Girls are welcome to join Pussy Church as congregants. We also need women who can serve Pussy Church in growing and strengthening our congregation. If you are able to offer your time, skills, money, or other resources in support of Pussy Church, please contact us.

A woman is an adult female human. A girl is a minor female human. The Pussy Church serves Women and Girls only. Males are not permitted to participate, regardless of how they identify. We expressly reject the concepts of gender identity, transgenderism, and gender as being meaningful to defining what a Woman or Girl is.”

So fucking gross.

Make no mistake about it TERFs are dangerous. These are not simply people who have a different opinion. These aren’t harmless, ineffective bigots screaming at their computer monitors we can all laugh at. These people want us dead. Many of them have said as much.

They bully us off of social media, try to get us fired from our jobs for speaking up against them, and cry victimhood when we push back.

A dear friend of mine, Danielle Muscato has lots and lots of experience dealing with these kinds of people, and she’s joining me today to talk about who TERFs are, what they do, how dangerous they are, and most importantly, how we can fight them.

Danielle on Patreon

Danielle on Twitter

and Danielle’s podcast, The Resist Podcast

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#172 – The Pop Culture Hero Coalition

Let’s talk about being a real life superhero

Far too many of us in the queer and trans community can tell stories for DAYS about being bullied for who we are. For being different. For standing out from the crowd in different ways. Our childhoods were filled with bad advice like “oh just ignore them and they’ll stop” even though they don’t. We’re told “it gets better” as a platitude without hearing anything about what the people in our lives are actually doing to make it better…

And if you’ve listened to the show for long enough, you’ll certainly have heard me go on and on about the power that fandom has to help people dealing with this stuff. I’ve told my own story several times about how Star Trek helped me figure out and come to terms with who I was, and how it helped me escape the fear I felt as a kid knowing how different I was and how I would be treated by my peers if they knew.

With those things in mind, I was pretty excited to learn about the organization we’re going to talk about on the show today. The Pop Culture Hero Coalition is the first-ever organization that uses the universal appeal of comics, film & TV to create anti-bullying programs at pop culture events, and in schools and communities. Our guest this week is Chase Masterson. You might remember her as Leeta from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, and she’s also one of the co-founders of the Pop Culture Hero Coalition

http://www.popculturehero.org/

https://twitter.com/superheroirl

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#171 – Transition…Then What?

What does “finishing” your transition even mean?

Often when trans folks finish whatever transition goals they have, they’re kind of left wondering what that means for their lives. My friend Leo and I had a super in depth talk about it.

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#170 – Vaginaversary AMA

A few friends and I are celebrating an important anniversary

This week we’re getting the crew from our surgery AMA back together along with a good friend who’s about to go through it herself. By the by, she’s needing a bit of help to get through her recovery. Here’s a link to her Gofundme, please check it out. Donate if you can, share if you can’t. Here’s the link:

https://www.gofundme.com/3z5hf2

 

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#169 – Happy Happy Joy Joy

Who’s got good news? We’ve got good news!

A good news episode with a very special guest co-host. She’s not special in the sense that its new to have her on, just special because she’s pretty awesome and we love her lots. Its your friend and mine, Marissa McCool. We do the usual good news thing where we gush about the good stuff in our lives, some good things from the news, and most importantly, some good news from you our dear listener! Also, check out the Facebook thread where this originated to see all kinds of adorable goodness in picture form..
Also, you should check out all of Ris’ things below:
Her Patreon pages (here and here)

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