Queersplaining

intention is the secret sauce

Thu, 21 May 2020 15:09:48 +0000

You might remember Miri from a few weeks ago when they gave us some really good coping tips for the moment we’re living in. Miri’s also a breast cancer survivor. They created a super meaningful ritual in response to their impending double mastectomy. So they share that story and then talk a little bit about how we might build rituals into our own lives to find meaning and to cope.

reprise

Thu, 14 May 2020 15:23:45 +0000

Kage has always been a singer. That got more difficult when he started T.

giving yourself completely

Thu, 07 May 2020 20:46:37 +0000

Paul was one of many people in the middle of the fight over gay marriage in the United States. And not in a way he would’ve ever wanted

don’t forget shave

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 16:38:00 +0000

body hair is a messy topic. my friend Kaeden shares a story about a time he had to make a real important decision about his. and we dive a bit into the history of how we in the US got to where we are around body hair beauty standards. its….not great.

Further reading (and the sources for my research):

https://eportfolios.macaulay.cuny.edu/brundage13/files/2013/09/Caucasian-Female-Body-Hair-and-American-Culture.pdf

https://www.vogue.com/article/body-hair-new-generation-not-shaving

https://www.mic.com/articles/151191/the-unusual-and-deeply-sexist-history-of-women-removing-their-body-hair

https://www.mic.com/articles/141283/women-are-talking-about-pubic-hair-8212-and-that-s-a-good-thing

https://www.historyundressed.com/2008/03/ladies-have-you-ever-forgotten-to-shave.html

dude

Thu, 23 Apr 2020 12:58:03 +0000

Lots of trans folks have complicated feelings about the word dude. Helen Zaltzman from the Allusionist joins me to help unpack the word’s history and usage. A few trans friends also join me to talk about why we love or hate it.

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from the greek for “beautiful voiced”

Thu, 16 Apr 2020 14:16:43 +0000

I dig my voice, but it took me awhile to get there. being a podcaster and a public speaker, I’m in sort of a unique spot in having years of documentation in that area. This week, a retrospective!

a crash course in coping

Thu, 09 Apr 2020 13:16:03 +0000

lots of us are trying to figure out how we’re going to get through the next few weeks (months?) of social distancing, isolation, and quarantine. its a thing i’ve been struggling with myself. my friend Miri Mogilevsky is a therapist, and this week they’re going to give us a crash course in coping techniques to get us through.

Check out the book Burnout here

finding your voice

Thu, 02 Apr 2020 14:53:14 +0000

trans folks have lots of feelings about our voices. this week we ask some questions. next week we’ll get some answers

disabled in the time of coronavirus

Thu, 26 Mar 2020 13:23:16 +0000

lots of disabled folks are pretty heated right now. they’re seeing mountains moved to provide things they’ve been told were too much for them to ask for. its time to do some soul searching as a society…

James and Kat

Thu, 19 Mar 2020 14:32:38 +0000

Awhile back I did an interview for another podcast I was producing. I made the episode and released it in the other feed, but 1. i don’t know that i did the best job putting together the episode. I was punching above my weight as a producer, and 2. the episode got like 40 downloads because it was on a totally different feed and it was like the 2nd or 3rd episode i did in that series. These folks deserve better!

In these trying times, a story about folks persevering and coming out okay on the other side. Love you, friends

BSA is dying, and we should let it

Thu, 05 Mar 2020 17:37:31 +0000

Shannon Downey (aka Badass Cross Stitch) was what she calls a “ghost boy scout.” Her family was a scouting family, and she has so many good memories of her proximity […]

slaying dragons

Thu, 27 Feb 2020 12:52:06 +0000

Back in October, I was super fortunate to get to perform at Bawdy Storytelling in Chicao. The recording of that night got lost, but I adapted my story from that […]

finding your place and your people

Thu, 20 Feb 2020 13:05:06 +0000

Elizabeth went in search of a queer utopia. They found…something different… You can buy their book here: Get the audiobook: http://estocheneditorial.com/shop Get the paperback: Amazon – https://amzn.to/2S6RujJ B&N – […]

kind words

Thu, 13 Feb 2020 13:52:18 +0000

Online gaming isn’t always known for being the most wholesome thing. But I found a game that really nails it. I played it a little and talked to one of […]

trans immersion class

Thu, 06 Feb 2020 13:38:32 +0000

Molly Woodstock makes a rad podcast called Gender Reveal. They recently made that and their consulting business their full time gig.

receipt femme

Thu, 30 Jan 2020 14:52:21 +0000

Hadassah Damien is on a mission to help marginalized folks get stable and secure with their finances. ridefreefearlessmoney.com Support the show via paypal: paypal.me/queersplaining or via Patreon: patreon.com/queersplaining

megatron is a queer icon

Thu, 23 Jan 2020 14:02:09 +0000

Jonathan is a toy collector. They track their queerness in a very specific way with a specific set of action figures of a specific character.

callie’s first time warp

Thu, 16 Jan 2020 15:00:54 +0000

there’s a lot of queer content that’s considered essential that i’ve never seen. this past weekend, i started working on fixing that. i saw rocky horror picture show for the […]

child of poseidon

Thu, 09 Jan 2020 15:07:23 +0000

Aisling has a career that she loves. Transphobia is getting in the way, and that sucks. Support the show: paypal.me/queersplaining patreon.com/queersplaining

in defense of the resolution

Thu, 02 Jan 2020 07:00:54 +0000

its new years. in defiance of internet cynicism, we’re setting some goals and planning for some awesome shit we want to do in the next year Support via Patreon: patreon.com/queersplaining […]

leaving diet culture behind

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 13:36:01 +0000

Eli’s gender journey involved unpacking some pretty serious baggage around their relationship with food and body image. Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/queersplaining Support the show on PayPal: paypal.me/queersplaining

chik fil a day

Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:59:09 +0000

This week, a piece of hate chicken inspires random acts of kindness.

Emilia’s not waiting

Thu, 12 Dec 2019 15:26:30 +0000

I saw a pretty disgusting display on Facebook a few weeks ago. A newly out trans woman did something pretty cool. And instead of celebrating her achievements, some members of […]

2009-2019

Thu, 05 Dec 2019 13:33:05 +0000

This week I’m thinking about the past. I’m thinking about the seemingly arbitrary ways we measure the milestones in out lives. Four friends and I unpack where we’ve come from […]

good news everyone!

Thu, 28 Nov 2019 15:01:14 +0000

This week, good news only. Love you friends <3 Support via Paypal: paypal.me/queersplaining Support via Patreon: patreon.com/queersplaining

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2019

Thu, 21 Nov 2019 13:22:58 +0000

Monica Roberts’ blog: transgriot.blogspot.com Keanna Mattell dancing: https://www.facebook.com/ciara.charleus/videos/vb.100000502624167/2500618129964917/?type=2&video_source=user_video_tab Tony’s Insta: @snowleopardferret

the only good thing about being a boy…

Thu, 14 Nov 2019 15:11:00 +0000

Jordan is cis, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a gender story to tell…

what it means to be Lakota

Thu, 07 Nov 2019 14:34:13 +0000

Joey is a Lakota two spirit person. This week they taught me about their life and their culture, and I’m super grateful <3

gender is spoopy

Thu, 31 Oct 2019 13:37:58 +0000

Lots of trans folks use costumes as gender exploration, here’s a few stories about that <3 Here are the pictures of Tori’s nurse outfit from 1986! Support the show via […]

saving derby’s soul

Thu, 24 Oct 2019 15:52:06 +0000

Roller Derby has been an amazing place for me to exist as a queer and trans person. It hasn’t always been that way. Not for everyone. This week I’m talking […]

who says i was thinking?

Thu, 17 Oct 2019 14:15:18 +0000

I have another super important anniversary coming up. I tell the story of how Celes and I met and our first date pretty often. It was even an episode of […]

saying it out loud

Thu, 10 Oct 2019 13:54:16 +0000

National Coming Out Day is this Friday. So here’s a thing. Support via Patreon: patreon.com/queersplaining Support via Paypal: paypal.me/queersplaining Music by Cloudkicker, used under Creative Commons

identity and boundaries and dating, oh my!

Thu, 03 Oct 2019 12:56:00 +0000

A few months ago, I did an Ask Callie episode, where folks sent in questions to get advice on things they were struggling with in their lives. I thought it […]

the black trans project

Thu, 26 Sep 2019 13:23:37 +0000

We hear lots of stories about black trans women dying. We don’t hear so much about black trans women living. This week I talk to someone who’s doing something about […]

two a**holes and a website

Thu, 19 Sep 2019 14:37:10 +0000

This week, my talk from The Triangle Freethought Society near Raleigh, NC. Three case studies and a moral argument as to why deplatforming and violent resistance are effective and morally […]

Abhilasha

Thu, 12 Sep 2019 13:23:10 +0000

Names are a big freakin deal. And this week I’m sharing the story of one person who has a particularly cool story behind hers <3 Support the show: patreon.com/queersplaining Music […]

requeered tales

Thu, 05 Sep 2019 13:24:22 +0000

Literature is super important. And this week I’m going to turn you on to someone who’s doing some pretty cool work to preserve the LGBTQ community’s literary history. requeeredtales.com [email protected] […]

10-8: how scared should we be?

Thu, 29 Aug 2019 16:17:35 +0000

Some important stuff is happening at The United States Supreme Court on October 8th. The question: does the 1964 Civil Rights act protect LGBTQ folks from employment discrimination. Lots of […]

Ashton P Woods – what about today?

Thu, 22 Aug 2019 14:57:18 +0000

Ashton P Woods is a man with a lot going on and a lot to say. He was good enough to give me some of his time when we were […]

what if they disagree?

Thu, 15 Aug 2019 14:51:05 +0000

This past weekend, I had the privilege of attending Skepticon in St Louis. Among other awesome things that happened, I moderated a panel called “What if They Disagree?” How do […]

transformations

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 19:41:44 +0000

Our culture is a jerk for how few tools it gives us to think deeply about ourselves. A full transcript for this episode can be found here Relevant links: Alyssa’s […]

dear callie

Thu, 01 Aug 2019 15:08:08 +0000

A full transcript for this episode can be found here This week, something a bit different. I get lots of messages from folks asking for advice on one thing or […]

my friends, i’ve found it

Thu, 25 Jul 2019 14:06:06 +0000

We’re all looking for something. For some people it’s spiritual, physical, emotional, psychological… For some it’s anatomical. My wife helped me find something I hadn’t realized I lost this week. […]

life is not a cartoon

Thu, 18 Jul 2019 15:40:52 +0000

A full transcript of this episode can be found here Humans love narrative. We base much of our lives around it. It’s very important for that reason. It’s why so […]

it all comes back to necromancy

Thu, 11 Jul 2019 15:32:59 +0000

If I say “Atheists in the United States need to think more about how we interact with folks in minority religious groups” I’m guessing that’d be pretty uncontroversial. There’s one […]

zach

Thu, 04 Jul 2019 07:24:45 +0000

A full transcript of this episode can be found here. We spend a lot of time saying we need to talk about mental health. Let’s go ahead and have that […]

callie is in a complicated relationship with pride

Thu, 27 Jun 2019 14:25:46 +0000

I know I’m not the only queer who has complicated feelings about pride. Let’s go unpacking, shall we?

i know you have a secret

Thu, 20 Jun 2019 14:48:32 +0000

sometimes relationships are amazing, then they end. sometimes that’s what makes sense.

bi

Thu, 13 Jun 2019 14:40:43 +0000

Given the society that we live in, we’re basically all always going to have things to unpack when it comes to gender and sexuality. I’m no different. Happy Pride <3 […]

project blitz

Thu, 06 Jun 2019 13:33:39 +0000

The religious right in the US definitely has a plan. And they’ve conveniently written it out in public for all of us to see. It’s scary stuff, but its definitely […]