what if they disagree?

This past weekend, I had the privilege of attending Skepticon in St Louis. Among other awesome things that happened, I moderated a panel called “What if They Disagree?”

How do we handle it when there seems to be an internal disagreement among a marginalized group. What is our place as allies in trying to advance the causes of racial justice, gender justice, and so on, when we’re confronted with conflicting views from inside those groups. There is right and wrong, but no group is a monolith. Its a difficult question, and one we tried to tackle in this panel discussion.

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Check out these important links!

Ashton P Woods for Houston 

Atheists Talk Podcast 

Free Hearts, Free Minds 

Heinous Dealings Blog 

Ex-Muslims of North America 

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Our culture is a jerk for how few tools it gives us to think deeply about ourselves. 

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Relevant links:

Alyssa’s article: https://the-orbit.net/alyssa/2016/03/08/baby-problem-steps-porn-edition/

Her blog: https://the-orbit.net/alyssa/

Miss Mako (the YouTube channel Alyssa refers to): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdZQ4Vo7-54mx15dQRONKzg

The Comics Site: http://www.tgcomics.com 

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dear callie

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This week, something a bit different. I get lots of messages from folks asking for advice on one thing or another, and I love talking with folks and bouncing ideas off of them and helping them through whatever they’re dealing with. I figured I’d make an episode of it!

Here are the links from Anonymous’ question about evidence for transness:



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my friends, i’ve found it

We’re all looking for something. For some people it’s spiritual, physical, emotional, psychological… For some it’s anatomical. My wife helped me find something I hadn’t realized I lost this week. It’s a happy coincidence that it also happens to be the two year anniversary of one of the most important dates in my life.

So, this week is an intimate look into Celes and I’s world, and a pretty special night we had. 

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life is not a cartoon

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Humans love narrative. We base much of our lives around it. It’s very important for that reason. It’s why so many of us find so much meaning in TV shows and books and movies and comics and so on. But there comes a point where reality overrides that. This week’s show uses a tarot reading to take me from start to finish through that process on a super important question I’d been ruminating over.

it all comes back to necromancy

If I say “Atheists in the United States need to think more about how we interact with folks in minority religious groups” I’m guessing that’d be pretty uncontroversial. There’s one group of people almost ALWAYS left out of those conversations. 

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We spend a lot of time saying we need to talk about mental health. Let’s go ahead and have that talk. My friend Zach has had a long road through mental illness and recovery, and he wants to be a therapist to try to prevent other trans folks from going through what he did. Content note for serious in depth discussions of mental health and recovery, including references to self harm and suicide. Above all, take care of yourselves, friends.

Here’s a link to Zach’s fundraiser if you’re in a position to help: https://bit.ly/2woO5Ct

Here’s some information about Emotional Dysregulation Disorder: https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Borderline-Personality-Disorder

Note: A more common name for Emotional Dysregulation Disorder is Borderline Personality Disorder. That phrase comes with some pretty serious stigma, and Emotional Dysreglation Disorder is a proposed change to the name that has been suggested by some professionals, and is the term Zach prefers.

Here’s the skills workbook Zach talked about: https://www.guilford.com/companion-site/DBT-Skills-Training-Handouts-and-Worksheets-Second-Edition/9781572307810

Here’s another skills workbook: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1B7weav7I59bKbbrcTLs7Repb5gN04BGu/view?fbclid=IwAR3-sEITI1eYvHn7std-FjF3TTG2e_M-KMYGiZvlF-KAdsxE4nY2IcY57IU

Here’s some info on Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: https://psychcentral.com/lib/an-overview-of-dialectical-behavior-therapy/